Red flag
She said yes. Then changed her mind.
Green flag
Then it's a no.
You stop. No debate.
Can she change her mind after saying yes?
Why?
Yes, at any moment, even halfway through. Consent can be taken back. If she says stop, seems uncomfortable or goes quiet, you stop. No debate, no guilt-trip, no "but you said yes". Continuing after she changes her mind is not OK. Stopping and asking if she's alright is what a decent partner does.
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