Red flag
Porn has no talking.
Green flag
Real sex is full of questions.
Asking is the skill.
Is it awkward to talk during sex?
Why?
Not really, and it's the most useful thing you can do. Porn has almost no talking, but real sex is full of small questions: "Do you like that?", "Slower?", "Is this OK?". Asking shows you care, makes it better for both of you and keeps consent clear. Asking is the skill.
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